My new year resolutions

1.Love to the fullest
2.Think less of the past
3.Do more phyical activities
4.Eat healthy and with love
5.Be good to all
6.try not to understand everything.it's impossible to know everything
7.Believe in myself more
8.Trust in God continually
9.Flie from anything that will bring sorrow(even if it used to be my friend or favourite thing)
10.Do more than I did in 2009

Bloody Men and Short Analysis

Bloody men are like bloody buses -
You wait for about a year
And as soon as one approaches your stop
Two or three others appear.


You look at them flashing their indicators,
Offering you a ride.
You're trying to read the destinations,
You haven't much time to decide.


If you make a mistake, there is no turning back.
Jump off, and you'll stand there and gaze
While the cars and the taxis and lorries go by
And the minutes, the hours, the days.


by Wendy Cope




Short analysis and comments on this poem.

At first glance, I thought this poem spoke the minds of generationsof single women.

Then it occurred to me that it also could be applied to men.

However, I would be writing from the perspective of women, who for no reason, are more affected by such fate.

The first line harshly concludes the poem before it even starts and it is the anchor upon which the poem is held.

It tells of the exasperation and sorrow men bring to women- single, and searching, desirous to find a bus on which they can board, to arrive safely at their destination. 

which in this stance, represents life and the Bric à Brac of relationships.

The adjective 'Bloody' expresses a sanguine perspective and also depicts the thirst for almost-death of so many single people in the world. 

Women who can not comprehend(not that they aren't trying) why the wait is not as productive as it should be.

If after awaiting for so long, wouldn't it be fair to have the desire of one's heart?

That is the question behind the words as I read through out and in.

Yet,this might be just a fragment of a larger problem which is the psychological aspect of loneliness, despair and singleness as portrayed negatively by the world.

The first stanza,as it is precisely expressed by the first line, explains the reason why "Bloody Men are like Bloody buses". 

It is because they seem to bring both relief and ache at the same time.

Every one knows how it feels like for example to wait under the snow for just one bus.

You wait for an hour or two, hands-frozen, head-heavy and legs still as stone.

Your thoughts are unclear and although you are still breathing, it is hard to tell how long this would last. 

While you have been waiting, another person comes along and stands by your side, waiting for the same bus.

And there, a bus drives by  and instantly another one, the two and three busescomes along side by side. 

How would you feel?

I think you would feel  pain and exasperation and almost disgust at that moment.

Why did you have to wait for so long for a  bus only for all three to come now in droves when all you needed was just one.

Then, although we might not have wanted another to suffer the pain we went through, it would appear fair to us at the instant, if both individuals had reached the same spot at the same time and eventually boded the bus after suffering alike.

The second stanza points to the attractiveness and confusion which the former relief of boarding a bus presented.

In other words, the random troubles that finding a companion brings to your life.

You have found one but there are others flashing their appealing light towards you. 

They seem to offer what the one you chose to follow has been offering yet they would likely portray those aspects of human traits they know the one you seem to appreciate more may be lacking.

That is where the dilemma of relationship lies.

Could it be him? is he comfortable enough? 

We are no more satisfied with entering the bus and finding a warm and comfortable pace. We are searching for a five star seat with no inconvenience. 

At that moment, your reason would be in no shape to advice you on the matter. To tell you that perfection does not exist.

The time factor is also an important issue in the second stanza.

Yes, time plays an enormous role in singleness and relationships.When we are single, we have only one yearning: To be with someone 'special. 

Someone that will take us to a new and different level. 

Although,there is nothing which indicates that we cannot attain that height alone, the desire to do it with someone imprints that belief unreasonably into our heart. 

We want someone. But, unfortunately many of us often put aside the fact that where we want to be may not be the place the 'special someone' wants to be.

Their destinations may be incompatible. This is where most of us make the mistake.We belittle the destination for the comfort of the present ride and the alluring safety of the bus.

The last stanza underlines an overall truth of the hazardous life we live. And also the strictness and rigidity about it.

The mistake has been committed and  it appears  impossible to remake what has been made. This is expressed by the line 'If you make a mistake, there is no turning back'. 

As if life offers you a unique chance in every moment of your life to make that one choice. 

There may be many buses in deed yet the chance that the buses are taking you to the right destination is rare. 

And the possibility that you have taken the wrong bus is high. 

However, you can get out of the bus or relationship, to get another one that will take you to where you want to be. 

Even though the time it will take you to get another is undetermined as expressed by the passing lorries, cars and taxis. 

These may look strange,unattractive and unpleasant as they pass by but you are bound to see them pass by and the time spent looking might be for a moment or forever.


Thanks for reading!!

Gift

I woke up this morning, hoping I would be able to make it to church and eventually partake of the sacrement.

But nothing happened as I planned.

Isn't it amazing that although we move from one year to another, life is still as unpredictable as it has always been.

It is still the same dangers we face now and tomorrow. It is still the same battle we fight.

I was drawn into reflections these past weeks as I looked around me. There are so many people out there in search of things which do not last.

I feel compassion because I can be one of them yet I am among the few who know the reason why I am here and how to pursue what matters most.

It might sound funny and distracting to think that life is a game, we are all players, some may lose and some may win.

Someone once told me that and I still feel as I felt when I heared that statement: Heart broken. 

It is wrong to view life as a game because it is not. It is also wrong to believe that some are losers because it is not completely true.It is totally false to think that some are winners, because it is not so.I will tell you why in three reasons.

Firstly, we all came to this earth out of our own free will,to know for ourselves the experiences that qualified God to be whom he is to us today.

We saw in him greatness above words. We saw in him light that broke darkness. We wanted to create and produce things none has ever found before.He was able to do all these and countless more without a sigh of weariness. We wanted to be just like him. This the first reason. 

Secondly,  Earth was designed for those who proved capable in many ways. There was none greater than another. We were all spiritualy talanted and were bound to be the same physically, no matter the physical and spiritual restrictions of sickness or sins. This uniqueness was a gift that other creations could not claim. 

The flowers wished they were as beautiful as us. The animals aspired to be just what we are: intelligence. So many other unknown creatures were ready to give what they were given to be like us. We could feel the future.We are the masters of everything this earth possesses. We were made to be powerful and supernal.

This was what we saw in God that made us yearned to be like him.This is the second reason.

Thirdly, he made us complementary. He wanted us to be eternal. He made man and woman and put in them the fire to mend the broken and the skills to make the other happy.

Because God was a happy being, he wanted us to be the same. He was not whom he was alone. He also had some one who loved him and was like him, she is a woman.

As glorious as the father, the mother of us all did not lack any of the qualities the father had. She was not without him as he was not wihout her. They both taught us the perfect beauty of togetherness and love. 

It was obvious in our awe, that we wanted someone who would be for us what the Mother was for the Father. We wanted to be completed, helped and acknowledge in our greatness.They taught us that power and love were the same and would come to naught, if there is none to share them with.This is the third reason.

And so many more reasons they shared with us while we were still with them.

They are hidden in our memories, not yet remembered. This shows that in this little world, no one is greater than another and no one is smaller than another.

No one truly losses and no one wins because it is not a game. It is a gift from God made everlasting by the Birth and sacrifice of his son, our brother, Jesus christ.

As we know, gifts are meant to be given and received. Thus, as we seat with our friends and family during these festive season,may we desire to complete, build love in our hearts and give it unmeasurely to anyone we meet as we travel in life.

I wish you all a better begining for this coming year!!!!

Winter

Cold cold winter, this is your season
of peace joy and merriment to all.
Stars shine brighter and last longer,
birds fly higher and sing sweetly,
our hearts are still, yet, beating for excitment.

Cold cold winter, this is your time
of tenderness comfort and hope.
The rain drops like the snow,
the sun barely rises,
our hearts are warm,it should be for the moment.

Cold cold winter, look at me
you promised to bring him nearer,
smiling,loving and dedicated than ever.
Nothing tastes sweet, everything tastes sour,
he never came knocking at my door for commitment.

Cold cold winter, I believe in love
to raise me higher, taller and stronger.
Make him believe also in us as I do.
Forever is meant to last till ever comes,
beat the drum of love to our mouvements.